What Is This???

So my therapist has been saying for some time that I am neurodivergent-- maybe I'm dumb, but I am having a hard time wrapping my head around what exactly that means. All the sources I've looked at are very ambiguous and inconclusive about it. It seems like being neurodivergent means you process things differently than the average person, but I would argue isn't that true for everyone across the board? Is there a threshold you have to meet to be neurodivergent? Is it a spectral disorder like autism or FASD? I am so confused. I definitely get overstimulated fairly easily -- most days I can recognize that it is happening and put coping strategies in effect to mitigate it (taking a five-minute bathroom break, deep breathing, grounding exercises, even just putting in my earbuds to drown out the sound a bit), but once in a while it hits me head on and I have to leave the situation ASAP before I lose my **** entirely. I also burn out pretty intensely -- after working a few 12.5-hour shifts last week and having a lot on my plate work-wise this week, I am truly burnt out, I called out today because I need today very badly to recharge. I have been participating in this thing called RealRoots, where you meet other women to form friendships. It's a great group -- the other women are really intelligent and friendly and interesting; that being said, the group events rob me of my Saturday, in other words, my one day to recharge (because on Fridays I am adulting and cleaning my condo). I have found that I very desperately need a day all to myself. Maybe that's excessive or abnormal, but I don't give a **** because it is clearly what I need, and I have not been getting this lately. I haven't even been able to make any jewelry lately because of how burnt out I have been, and I need to step on it because I am making my dad a pair of cufflinks for Xmas (not that he particularly deserves them, but 'tis the season, I guess). It's a tough situation, and I don't know what to do.

In my experience and it’s just mine so not the rule, when someone says person X seems neurodivergent, most of the time it’s a subtle way of saying they suspect that person has ASD, possibly mild. They don’t want to outright say it because there is no official diagnosis and if they don’t want to offend.
“Neurodivergent” is more subtle.

As about wanting time alone and break from groups and crowds, I don’t think it’s a sign of neurodivergence. It’s not abnormal or excessive to want that. I need lots of time to myself and having the entire Saturday to myself would be a dream come true (doesn’t happen much), but I am certainly not neurodivergent

I’d ask your therapist why she thinks you are neurodivergent. Ask her to be specific

I used to harass my t that i did a man's job while he sat on his butt doing a woman's job. You definitely do a man's job. Its more than that, its verbal AND analytical, usually people excel in one or the other, not both. I am speaking from post-retirement EXTREME burnout. It was horrible but addictive too.

I will definitely ask my therapist to elaborate -- it's usually come up in passing terms, for example, "it makes sense that you do that, as it's pretty common among neurodivergent people."